Chinonso Okonna's Blog

Sometime in April 2022, I sat down with my course preparation partner in the kitchen area of our classroom away from the rest of my colleagues in the Graduate Training Program (I have written about my Graduate Training Experience, check it out). We were discussing the framework for the course we were to prepare and I told her "I really want to put in my best into this to make up for the time I didn't maximize in school". I wanted validation for this work in order to take away the guilt I felt for not graduating with the grades I wanted from the university. To cut the long story short, I couldn't even complete the course preparation because my training ended. It is important that we have the right motive in order to be truly successful. If I had completed the course I was preparing, the level of arrogance I would have displayed, would have been out of this world because I would have felt I was better than everyone else, thinking about it now I didn't ev...

"I was made this way, it's not my choice, I didn't choose to be sexually attracted to my gender, I have accepted who I am". "I have always taken what's not mine, since I was a child, I believe since it has stayed this long that's how I was made, I shouldn't stop the real me". Picture from Pexels.com Amazingly, I have heard things like this from people, and I actually get where they are coming from. Every human born on earth came with the sinful nature gotten from our first parents Adam and Eve. So many people have used the excuse of being born sinful to claim their lifestyle is as a result of who they were made to be not their choices. It is true humans were born evil by nature,  we came into the earth sinful but a lot of us decided (by choice) that we wanted this nature changed, so we embraced the option of salvation and transformation offered by God through His son Jesus Christ. Dear brothers and sisters, this world is controlled by...

It's the eight month of the year already, how time flies so fast. Welcome to August Sometime ago, I had a conversation with a friend and it was about how he doesn't intend to hide anything from his wife, he said even before marriage, he will deliberately keep her informed about his dealings. Before now I knew the importance of openness but I understood it better after watching a movie where secrecy ruined a beautiful relationship. The truth makes free, not just the truth of God's word but telling the truth in to our families, friends and in our various relationships.  I once heard someone say "if I cheat, I won't tell my spouse ohh, it will be better no one knows and everyone is happy". In as much as I understand that cheating should not even be on our minds, it is important to tell any truth you feel your family, friends and partner should know. No one is saying it is easy to share certain details about your life that you aren't proud of, but...

My previous post was on parental support, but today we will be focusing more on the responsibilities of children, so they can fully enjoy their parent's support. The focus for the month of July has been marriage and family, as we know family is the smallest unit in the society which implies it's affect the wellbeing of the entire society. In science, we were taught that cells are the smallest part of an organ and anything that affects the cell affects the entire organ. So, doing marriage and family right will in turn bring about a better society. I told the story of some individuals who enjoyed parental support and went to the top in their realm of influence. Geeta Kumari (an India Female Wrestler) at some point in her life felt her Dad (who was her first coach) was no longer eligible to train her and he's idea was old school and she decided to do things her way.  She didn't find her actions funny and eventually returned back to her father's coaching and...

I have mentioned this saying in my previous post but it's important I mention it here again for emphasis sake. "By choosing a spouse, you are choosing a father or mother for your children". I have come to understand the necessity of parental support in the lives of children. Even though we are responsible for our outcome in life as individuals, parental influence has a huge role to play in our becoming. From the stories of Dr. Ben Carson, The Antetokounmpo's (Basket Ball Players), Venus and Serena Williams (Tennis Players), Geeta and Babita Kumari (India Female Wrestlers) and many more have proven that parental support and encouragement cannot be overemphasized. These amongst many were individuals who got to the level they are now because their parents believed in them even when no one did. It's a beautiful thing when your child has his/her life figured out but it's important to support your child even when it looks like he/she has nothing figured ...

Walking home alone after an evening service in church, several thoughts rushed through my mind but one got stucked "why shouldn't you cheat on your spouse"? This was the highlight of my thoughts. God expects us to be faithful to Him, He saved us and desires that we stay committed to Him. In the 10 commandments, He required that we serve Him alone and never bow or worship other god's, as the scripture says "Our God is a jealous God". Where is all these leading to? In Ephesians 5:21-32, the Bible likened our relationship with Christ with that of a married couple, so, why is cheating or polygamy not accepted in God's kingdom?  It is anti-God's agenda The same way God has commanded us not to share His attention with any other, is the same way He expects a man and woman to stay together as husband and wife and not share their attention with anyone outside their marriage. God's intention for marriage is same as the one in the 10 commandment...